Let's take the example of a Concert Pianist’s Practice. Every world-class pianist knows the secret—real artistry isn’t born in flawless performances, but in the deliberate struggle of practice. When a musician hits a wrong note, their brain doesn’t shut down—it supercharges. Neuroplasticity fires up, creating new neural pathways with each repetition. The struggle isn’t failure; it’s the brain’s upgrade mechanism.

As a therapist in Sheung Wan, Central Hong Kong, I’ve seen these lessons transform lives—including my own. Whether you're navigating career changes, relationships, or personal growth, these insights can help you skip unnecessary detours. Here are the 40 hard-earned truths that would have saved me (and maybe you) years of unnecessary struggle